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Chastity Rules: 50 Examples and How to Choose a Starter Set

By Aria Wilde · updated 2026-10-19 · 6 min read

A chastity device holds him physically. Rules hold him mentally, and they are what turn a locked week from a gadget into a dynamic. Below are fifty chastity rules I have seen work, sorted by what they control, followed by a method for choosing a starter set that suits you rather than copying a list wholesale.

How to read this list

Every rule below is a menu item. Pick the ones that create the feeling you both want and ignore the rest. Three principles before you choose anything:

• A rule must be checkable. If you cannot tell whether it was followed, it creates anxiety, not obedience.
• A rule must be survivable. Anything that conflicts with work, medical needs or sleep will be broken for good reasons.
• Safety rules outrank all other rules. They are never part of a game.

If you are the one holding the key, how to be a keyholder covers the daily routine that supports these rules.

Safety and hygiene rules (1-10)

1. Report pain, numbness, colour change or swelling immediately; the device comes off.
2. Report difficulty urinating immediately.
3. Wash the device and the skin daily, with the keyholder's method.
4. Dry thoroughly before closing the device again after any unlock.
5. Send a skin-check photo or description after every unlock.
6. Never sleep in the device if it causes discomfort at night.
7. Drink water through the day, with no restricting fluids to avoid leaks.
8. Trim and groom as instructed so the device does not pinch.
9. Keep a spare key location known to both partners.
10. Take a full unlocked break at the agreed interval, even when he wants to push on.

For the cleaning method, chastity cage hygiene has the step-by-step version.

Behaviour rules (11-20)

1. Greet the keyholder with an agreed word or phrase each morning.
2. Complete the assigned daily task before bed.
3. Speak respectfully in messages, using the agreed title.
4. Ask permission before making plans that affect the dynamic, such as travel.
5. No lying to the keyholder about anything related to the lock.
6. Keep a short daily journal entry about how the lock feels.
7. Wear a chosen item, such as a particular pair of panties, on set days.
8. Read or listen to one assigned piece each evening, for example Locktober day 12: cage and denial rules.
9. Maintain a clean, tidy space as a daily service task.
10. Accept corrections without arguing; discuss disagreements at the weekly review.

Touching rules (21-30)

1. No touching the genitals except for hygiene.
2. No touching through clothing either.
3. No thinking about release as a goal; redirect to service.
4. No watching explicit material unless assigned.
5. Do not press, rub or rock against surfaces.
6. No using the device itself as a toy.
7. No attempts to remove or loosen the device.
8. Ask before showering with warm, long, relaxing water, if arousal is the issue.
9. No sleeping on your front on a mattress when it causes friction, which is a health rule disguised as a restriction.
10. Hands visible during video check-ins.

Some keyholders also use mental chastity, where the same rules apply without any device at all, as a way of testing the habit before buying anything.

Release and denial rules (31-40)

1. Release only when the keyholder grants it, in writing.
2. Release is never promised; it is earned or drawn at random.
3. Any permitted release may be ruined, edged or delayed at the keyholder's choice.
4. Begging is allowed once per day, and the answer is final.
5. Each broken rule adds a fixed number of days.
6. Each completed week reduces the count by one day.
7. A countdown stays hidden from him.
8. Release requires completing a milestone, such as thirty days of tasks.
9. Wet dreams are reported, not punished.
10. A planned release date is revealed only on the day.

Tease and denial rules goes deeper into pacing these, and chastity release schedule covers fixed versus random patterns.

Reporting and communication rules (41-50)

1. Evening check-in by an agreed time, every day.
2. Morning message before a stated hour.
3. Answer the keyholder's messages within a set window, say thirty minutes during waking hours.
4. Send a voice note instead of text on weekends.
5. Rate arousal and comfort from 1 to 10 each evening.
6. Report every broken rule yourself, before you are asked.
7. Send a photo of the device in place on inspection days.
8. Share one thing you enjoyed and one you struggled with at the weekly review.
9. Tell the keyholder at once if the dynamic stops feeling good.
10. Review the whole rule list every month and rewrite what no longer fits.

Keyholder check-in questions supplies wording for the daily and weekly reports.

Choosing a starter set

Use this four-step method.

1. Pick safety first. Take rules 1-4 and 9 as non-negotiable.
2. Pick one rule per category from behaviour, touching, release and reporting. That gives five more rules, so a total of about ten, but treat the safety ones as background.
3. Add exactly one consequence and one reward. Example: a broken rule costs two extra days; a full clean week earns a warm evening and one day off the count.
4. Write it on one page. A femdom contract template works if you want it formal.

A sample for a gentle first week:

For a first-timer I would keep the lock to three to seven days; see chastity for beginners.

Making rules stick

Rules stick when you feel them. Hearing them in my voice helps many people; Locktober week 2: the rules turns the list into a spoken ritual, and start here part 7: locked sets the mood for a first locked evening.

Revisit the list weekly. Delete rules that nobody enforces, tighten the ones that matter, and add one new rule only when the others feel effortless. A short list that you follow beats a long one that you break.

Rules to avoid

Not every rule is a good one. Skip these unless you have thought them through:

• Rules that cannot be kept for health reasons, such as never removing the device even for cleaning.
• Rules based on shame about natural events, such as punishing wet dreams or morning erections. These happen to everyone.
• Rules that depend on constant availability, like instant replies during meetings.
• Open-ended punishments without a stated end, since they create dread rather than desire.
• Rules that you will not enforce. An ignored rule teaches him that all your rules are optional.

Rotating rules over time

After the first month, rotate rules rather than just adding them. A simple pattern: keep the safety and reporting rules fixed, and change one behaviour or touching rule each week. Examples: a week of a specific outfit, a week of morning exercise, a week of written gratitude. Variation stops the list from fading into the background, and it gives each week its own identity.

If you want a gentle on-ramp for the whole subject, the Sissy Academy path pairs well with a rule set, because the weekly lessons give you something concrete to report on.

Rules for the first locked weekend

If your first lock is a weekend, strip the list down further. Use only the safety rules, a morning greeting, an evening rating and a single task. The goal of a first weekend is not to test willpower; it is to learn how the device feels, how he reacts to a rule being enforced, and how you feel enforcing it. Afterwards, sit down together and ask three questions: which rule felt good, which felt like paperwork, and which would you add. The answers are your second weekend's rule set, and they will be better than anything copied from a list.

Writing rules in the right voice

Phrase each rule as a clear sentence in the present tense: "I check in every evening by nine" is easier to follow than "check-ins are expected." Use the same wording each time so there is nothing to argue over. If you are the keyholder, say the rules aloud once so he hears them in your voice, and put the written copy where he can read it whenever he needs a reminder.

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