Glossary

What the words mean: 319 kink, femdom, chastity, sissy and erotic hypnosis terms, explained in plain English with examples. Each entry links to the guides and sessions that go deeper.

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Kink: Anal play, BDSM test, Body writing, Brainwashing kink, Butt plug, CEI, Cock ring, Consensual non-consent, Degradation kink, Dirty talk, Dollification, Double dildo, E-stim, Edging, Erotic roleplay, Foot fetish, Forniphilia, Gender play, Gimp (kink), Humiliation kink, JOI, Kink vs fetish, Kitten play, Latex fetish, Leather kink, Mindfuck, Objectification (kink), Orgasm denial, P-spot, Paraphilia, Pegging, Pet play, Pony play, Praise kink, Prostate massager, Prostate orgasm, Prostate play, Puppy play, Ritual, Role reversal, Ruined orgasm, Spanking Kink, SPH, Tease and denial, TF kink

BDSM: 24/7 dynamic, Aftercare, Ball busting, Ball Gag, BDSM, BDSM Contract, Bondage, Bottom, Brat, Brat tamer, Caning, CBT, Collar, D/s, Day collar, Debrief, Dom, Domestic discipline, Domspace, Dungeon, Dungeon monitor, Dynamic, Edge play, Enthusiastic consent, Figging, Flogger, Forced orgasm, FRIES, Hard limit, Headspace, Humbler, Impact play, Inspection, KAP, Masochist, Munch, Nipple Clamps, Ownership, Pain Play, Play Partner, Play party, Post-orgasm torture, Power exchange, Predicament Bondage, Protocol, Punishment, RACK, Riding Crop, Rope top, Sadist, Safe call, Safeword, Scene, Self-Bondage, Sensation play, Sensory Deprivation, Service sub, Service Top, Shibari, Slave, Soft limit, Spreader Bar, SSC, St Andrew's Cross, Sub, Sub drop, Sub Frenzy, Subspace, Switch, Temperature play, Top, Topping from the bottom, TPE, Traffic light system, Vetting, Violet Wand, Wartenberg Wheel

Hypnosis: Abreaction, Anchor, Arm levitation, Autosuggestion, Awakener, Blank mind, Catalepsy, Compounding, Conditioning, Confusion induction, Conversational Hypnosis, Countdown induction, Deep trance, Deepener, Dissociation, Double Bind, Drone kink, Dual Induction, Elman induction, Embedded Commands, Ericksonian hypnosis, Erotic hypnosis, Eye fixation, Fractionation, Guided Imagery, Hands-free orgasm, Handshake induction, Hypnagogia, Hypno file, Hypno spiral, Hypnodomme, Hypnokink, Hypnosub, Hypnotee, Hypnotherapy, Hypnotic amnesia, Hypnotic Bondage, Hypnotic Overload, Hypnotic suggestion, Hypnotic trigger, Ideomotor response, Induction, Mantra, Mesmerism, NLP, Pacing and Leading, Post-hypnotic suggestion, Progressive muscle relaxation, Rapid induction, Sleep trigger, Somnambulism, Stage Hypnosis, Staircase deepener, Subliminal, Suggestibility, Theta waves, Trance, Trance Logic, Tranceplay, Waking Hypnosis, Yes Set

Chastity & Denial: Ball Trap, Base Ring, Chastity belt, Chastity cage, Chastity Release, Chastity Spacer, Chastity Training, Ice Lock, Keyholder, Lockbox, Lockee, Locktober, Male Chastity, Orgasm control, Permanent Chastity

Sissy & Feminization: Bimbofication, Corsetry, Crossdresser, Crossplay, Drag, En drab, En femme, Feminization, Forced Feminization, Gaff, Silicone breastplate, Sissification, Sissy, Sissy Maid, Sissy training, Transvestite

Femdom: Alpha female, Bend Over Boyfriend, Body worship, CFNM, Domina, Dominatrix, Domme, Femdom, Findom, FLR, Foot worship, Goddess, Gynarchy, Human ATM, Humiliatrix, Jock harness, Loving female authority, Milking, Mistress, Mommy Dom, O-ring, Pro domme, Queening, Sissy trainer, Soft femdom, Strap-on, Strap-on harness, Thigh harness, Tribute, Wife-led marriage

ASMR & Audio: 8D audio, ASMR, ASMR immunity, ASMRtist, Binaural audio, Binaural beats, Brain melt, Ear licking ASMR, Ear to ear, Erotic audio, F4A, F4M, Frisson, GFE, Inaudible whispering, Isochronic tones, M4F, Misophonia, Mouth sounds, NSFW ASMR, Personal attention ASMR, Roleplay ASMR, Script fill, Soft spoken, Tapping ASMR, Tingles, Whisper ASMR

Slang: Beta male, Bimbo, Blue balls, Boy toy, Caged, Clocked, Coomer, Dom energy, Dommy mommy, Femboy, Femme, Fluffy kink, Funishment, Funscript, Genderbend, GGG, Girl mode, Good Boy, Good Girl, Gooncave, Gooner, Gooning, GWA, Henpecked, Hypno, Kink-shaming, Kinkster, Kinky, No Nut November, NoFap, Paypig, Pegger, Pillow princess, Pinkpilled, PMV, Power Bottom, Pretty boy, Rope bunny, Semen retention, Simp, Sissy slut, Sissygasm, Squick, Subby, Tomgirl, Trance junkie, Vanilla, Whipped

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• 24/7 dynamic
  A 24/7 dynamic is a BDSM relationship where the power exchange runs continuously rather than only during scenes. The dominant leads and the submissive follows in daily li

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• 8D audio
  8D audio is a stereo effect that makes sound seem to circle around your head, usually by panning it between the left and right ears with reverb and volume shifts. It need

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• Abreaction
  Abreaction is an unexpected release of strong emotion, such as crying, trembling or anger, during hypnosis or therapy. It happens when relaxation lowers emotional guards
• Aftercare
  Aftercare means the attention and comfort partners give each other after sex, a BDSM scene or an intense erotic session. It covers physical needs like water, warmth and r
• Alpha female
  Alpha female is a popular term for a woman who is confident, assertive and comfortable taking the lead, socially, at work or in relationships. She sets direction, speaks
• Anal play
  Anal play means any sexual stimulation of the anus or lower rectum, with fingers, tongue, toys or a partner. It includes massage, rimming, plugs, prostate play and peggin
• Anchor
  A hypnotic anchor is a sensory cue, such as a touch, gesture, scent, colour or sound, that has been linked to a particular feeling or state so that the cue brings the sta
• Arm levitation
  Arm levitation is a hypnosis induction in which the subject's arm appears to rise on its own while they focus on suggestions of lightness. It is an ideomotor effect: tiny
• ASMR
  ASMR stands for autonomous sensory meridian response: a pleasant, tingling sensation, usually starting at the scalp and moving down the neck and spine, triggered by soft
• ASMR immunity
  ASMR immunity is the fading of tingles after repeated exposure to the same triggers or creators. The sensation weakens, even though the content still feels relaxing. It i
• ASMRtist
  An ASMRtist is a creator who produces ASMR content: recordings designed to trigger tingles and relaxation using whispers, tapping, roleplay and other sounds. The word ble
• Autosuggestion
  Autosuggestion is the practice of repeating ideas to yourself in order to shift your thoughts, mood or behaviour. The term comes from Émile Coué, who taught a short phras
• Awakener
  An awakener is the closing section of a hypnosis session that returns you to normal waking alertness, typically with a count from one to five, reorientation to the room a

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• Ball busting
  Ball busting has two meanings. In everyday slang, busting someone's balls means teasing, nagging or giving them a hard time, and a ball-buster is a tough, demanding perso
• Ball Gag
  A ball gag is a ball, usually silicone or rubber, held in the mouth by a strap buckled behind the head. It stops clear speech, causes drooling and is used in bondage and
• Ball Trap
  In chastity, a ball trap is a cage design in which the testicles sit inside a closed cup or chamber, or behind a shaped ring, so the device cannot slide off. It adds secu
• Base Ring
  The base ring is the ring of a chastity cage that sits behind the testicles at the base of the penis and locks to the cage tube, holding it in place. Its size and materia
• BDSM
  BDSM is an acronym covering three overlapping pairs: Bondage and Discipline (B/D), Dominance and Submission (D/s), and Sadism and Masochism (S/M). It's the umbrella term
• BDSM Contract
  A BDSM contract is a written agreement between kink partners that records roles, limits, rules and expectations. It is a communication tool, not a legal document: no cour
• BDSM test
  A BDSM test is an online questionnaire that scores your interests across kink traits, such as dominant, submissive, switch, masochist or rigger. The results are a convers
• Bend Over Boyfriend
  Bend Over Boyfriend is a 1998 instructional video about women penetrating men with strap-ons, from the creators associated with Good Vibrations. Its title became shorthan
• Beta male
  Beta male is slang for a man seen as less dominant, assertive or confident than an 'alpha male'.
• Bimbo
  Bimbo is slang for an attractive, hyper-feminine woman stereotyped as unintelligent. It began as an insult, was reclaimed online in the 2020s as a confident, pink, self-m
• Bimbofication
  Bimbofication is the fantasy or role-play of being transformed into a bimbo: bigger hair, glossier lips, a curvier body, and thoughts that turn soft, giggly and simple. I
• Binaural audio
  Binaural audio is sound recorded or processed to imitate how two human ears hear, giving a 3D image with positions around the head. It is made with a dummy-head microphon
• Binaural beats
  Binaural beats are an auditory illusion created by playing two pure tones of slightly different frequencies, one in each ear. The brain perceives a third, pulsing beat at
• Blank mind
  Blank mind means a state in which ordinary thinking goes quiet and the mind feels empty, still and receptive. In hypnosis it describes a deep, pleasant trance where thoug
• Blue balls
  Blue balls is slang for a dull ache in the testicles after prolonged arousal without ejaculation. It is caused by blood pooling in the genital area, is harmless, usually
• Body worship
  Body worship means giving slow, devoted attention to a partner's body as an act of adoration: kissing, massaging, admiring and praising it on their terms. In femdom, a su
• Body writing
  Body writing is the kink of having words, drawings or marks written on the skin, such as "property of" or a nickname, with marker or lipstick. It expresses humiliation, o
• Bondage
  Bondage means consensually restricting a partner's movement with rope, cuffs, tape, straps or furniture, for pleasure, trust and power play. It ranges from silk scarves o
• Bottom
  In BDSM, a bottom is the person who receives the action in a scene, such as being tied, spanked or directed. A bottom is not always a submissive: the term describes the r
• Boy toy
  A boy toy is slang for an adult man seen as a partner's plaything: someone attractive, attentive and mostly there for fun, often younger. In femdom it can be a playful ti
• Brain melt
  Brain melt is ASMR slang for a deep wave of tingles or a heavy, blank, floaty feeling where thoughts slow to a stop. It is a pleasant, relaxed state rather than anything
• Brainwashing kink
  Brainwashing kink is the erotic fantasy of having your thoughts, desires or identity reshaped by someone else, usually through hypnosis, repetition and conditioning. It i
• Brat
  A brat, in a relationship or kink, means a submissive who playfully disobeys, teases and talks back on purpose, so their dominant has to 'tame' them. Bratting is a game b
• Brat tamer
  A brat tamer is a dominant who enjoys partnering with a brat, the mischievous submissive who disobeys on purpose. Instead of being annoyed by back-talk, a brat tamer enjo
• Butt plug
  A butt plug is a toy made to be worn inside the rectum, with a narrow neck and a flared base that keeps it in place. It is used for fullness, anal training before pegging

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• Caged
  Caged is slang for a man who is locked in a chastity cage, a device that prevents erection and sexual release. A caged man is under the control of whoever holds the key,
• Caning
  Caning in BDSM means striking the body with a thin, flexible rod, usually rattan, to produce a sharp, linear sensation. It is among the most intense forms of impact play,
• Catalepsy
  In hypnosis, catalepsy is a suggested state in which a limb or the eyelids become rigid or locked and the person feels unable to move them. Arm catalepsy and eye cataleps
• CBT
  CBT has two common meanings. In kink slang it means cock and ball torture: consensual play that applies pain or pressure to the genitals, such as squeezing, slapping, wei
• CEI
  CEI means cum eating instruction: a kink format, usually in video or audio, in which a dominant voice instructs the listener to taste or swallow his own release after fin
• CFNM
  CFNM stands for clothed female, naked male: a scenario where the woman stays dressed while the man is nude. The imbalance creates vulnerability, embarrassment and a clear
• Chastity belt
  A chastity belt is a locking garment worn around the waist with a shield that covers the genitals, preventing sex and masturbation until it is unlocked. Popular legend li
• Chastity cage
  A chastity cage is a locking device worn over the penis that prevents full erections, masturbation and sex until it is unlocked. It usually has a ring behind the testicle
• Chastity Release
  Chastity release is the point at which a locked person is allowed out of the device, or allowed to orgasm, after a period of denial. It can be a full orgasm, a ruined org
• Chastity Spacer
  A chastity spacer is a small insert, usually plastic or silicone, that adjusts the distance between the base ring and the cage tube, or the length of the cage. It fine-tu
• Chastity Training
  Chastity training means building up time in a device and a set of habits step by step, from short sessions to longer locks, with rules and check-ins. The aim is comfort,
• Clocked
  Clocked is slang for being noticed as crossdressing or presenting differently from how you were assigned, meaning someone "read" you. For a crossdresser or sissy, being c
• Cock ring
  A cock ring is a ring worn around the base of the penis, or penis and scrotum, to trap blood and keep an erection firmer or longer. Wear it for no more than about 20-30 m
• Collar
  In BDSM a collar is a band worn around the neck that symbolises a submissive's relationship with a dominant. It can mean anything from a scene accessory to a formal commi
• Compounding
  Compounding in hypnosis means linking suggestions so that each one builds on the previous response, repeating the same idea in new wording until it takes hold. A person w
• Conditioning
  Conditioning in hypnosis means building a learned link between a cue and a response through repetition and reward, so the cue alone eventually produces the response. It u
• Confusion induction
  A confusion induction is a hypnosis technique that deliberately overloads the conscious mind with complicated, contradictory or rapidly shifting language until it gives u
• Consensual non-consent
  Consensual non-consent (CNC) means a negotiated role-play where adults agree in advance to act out a scene in which one partner appears to resist or not consent. The 'non
• Conversational Hypnosis
  Conversational hypnosis means using normal-sounding conversation, with hypnotic language patterns, to guide someone's attention and expectations without a formal inductio
• Coomer
  Coomer is meme slang for a person, usually a man, who is seen as addicted to porn and masturbation. It comes from 'coom', a deliberate misspelling of 'cum', and from a 20
• Corsetry
  Corsetry is the making and wearing of boned, laced garments that shape the torso, historically to give a narrow waist. Today it covers fashion, costume, back support and
• Countdown induction
  A countdown induction is a hypnosis method that starts trance by counting downwards, usually from ten to one, while pairing each number with a breath and a suggestion to
• Crossdresser
  A crossdresser is a person who wears clothing typically associated with another gender, most often a man who wears women's clothes. Crossdressing describes an activity, n
• Crossplay
  Crossplay means cosplaying a character whose gender differs from your own, such as a man playing a female anime character. It is a normal part of convention culture and s

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• D/s
  D/s stands for dominance and submission: the power-exchange side of BDSM, where one person takes the lead and the other follows. The capital D and lowercase s signal that
• Day collar
  A day collar is a discreet piece of jewellery a submissive wears in everyday life as a sign of belonging to their dominant. Unlike a leather play collar, it looks like an
• Debrief
  A debrief in BDSM is a structured conversation after a scene, usually once the adrenaline has settled, where both people review what happened: what felt good, what did no
• Deep trance
  Deep trance is a profound hypnotic state in which attention is narrowly absorbed, the body feels heavy or distant and responses to suggestion are strong. It sits at the f
• Deepener
  A hypnosis deepener is any technique used after the induction to take the listener further into trance. Typical deepeners are counting down, imagining a staircase or lift
• Degradation kink
  Degradation kink means being aroused by being treated as lesser: called crude names, objectified, used or reduced in status by a partner, all by consent. The focus is on
• Dirty talk
  Dirty talk means using sexual or suggestive language to arouse a partner, in person, by text or in audio. Styles range from praise and description to commands and degrada
• Dissociation
  In hypnosis, dissociation is the pleasant sense of detachment from your body, thoughts or surroundings, as if you are watching yourself from a distance. It is a normal fe
• Dollification
  Dollification is a kink in which a person is transformed into, or treated as, a living doll: dressed and made up by someone else, posed, kept still and quiet, and admired
• Dom
  Dom is short for dominant: the person who takes the leading role in a BDSM scene or power-exchange relationship. 'Dom' is used for any gender, though 'domme' usually mean
• Dom energy
  Dom energy is slang for a commanding, calm and confident presence that makes other people want to follow. "Big domme energy" praises someone for it. It is about bearing a
• Domestic discipline
  Domestic discipline (DD) is a consensual relationship style in which one partner sets household rules and administers agreed consequences when they are broken. Punishment
• Domina
  Domina is the Latin word for a female ruler or lady of the house. In kink, especially in German and wider European usage, a domina is a dominant woman or professional dom
• Dominatrix
  A dominatrix is a woman who takes the dominant role in BDSM, controlling a submissive through commands, restraint, discipline or humiliation. Today the word most often me
• Domme
  A domme is a dominant woman in a BDSM or power-exchange dynamic. The word is the feminine spelling of 'dom', pronounced the same ('dom'), and it describes a woman who tak
• Dommy mommy
  Dommy mommy is internet slang for an attractive, confident and commanding woman, often said jokingly. It nods to the mommy dom role in kink, but in pop culture it is most
• Domspace
  Domspace is the focused, confident headspace a dominant enters during a scene. Attention narrows onto the submissive, decisions come easily, and the dom feels powerful, c
• Double Bind
  In hypnosis, a double bind offers the listener a choice between two options that both lead to the same result, such as "you can relax now or in a moment". The choice feel
• Double dildo
  A double dildo is a toy with an insertable head at each end, meant to be shared between two people or used for double penetration. It comes in straight, curved and bulb-e
• Drag
  Drag is a performance art in which someone dresses and acts in an exaggerated style of a gender, most famously drag queens and drag kings. It is about character and enter
• Drone kink
  Drone kink is a fantasy of losing individuality and becoming a uniform, obedient, mechanical unit, a drone or robot, often in matching outfits and under a controlling voi
• Dual Induction
  A dual induction uses two voices at once, often one in each ear, to guide the listener into trance together. The voices alternate or overlap, the listener cannot follow b
• Dungeon
  A dungeon in BDSM is a space set up for kink play, either a public venue with shared stations or a private room at home. It holds equipment like benches, crosses and rest
• Dungeon monitor
  A dungeon monitor, or DM, is a trained volunteer or staff member who watches over a play space at a club or party. They enforce house rules and safety, step in when a sce
• Dynamic
  In BDSM, a dynamic is the structure of the power relationship between partners: who leads, who follows, and how that shows up in daily life. It can be a scene-only arrang

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• E-stim
  E-stim, short for electrostimulation, in the sexual sense means using a controlled, low electrical current through pads or insertable electrodes to create erotic sensatio
• Ear licking ASMR
  Ear licking ASMR is a trigger in which the creator makes wet, kissing and licking sounds close to the binaural mic, sounding as if they are at your ear. It is intimate, o
• Ear to ear
  Ear to ear in ASMR means sounds that travel between the left and right ear, usually whispers or taps moving across the stereo field. It is recorded with a binaural or ste
• Edge play
  Edge play is BDSM activity that carries a higher physical or psychological risk, or that pushes close to personal limits. Examples include breath play, knife play, heavy
• Edging
  Edging means bringing yourself or a partner right to the brink of orgasm, stopping before the point of no return, letting arousal drop slightly, and repeating. It is used
• Elman induction
  The Elman induction is a rapid hypnosis method developed by Dave Elman in the 1950s. It uses eye relaxation, a count of ten down to one, a limp-arm test and a deepening c
• Embedded Commands
  An embedded command is a short instruction hidden inside a longer sentence and marked by a slight change in tone or a pause, such as "many people find it easy to relax no
• En drab
  En drab means dressed and presenting in your ordinary male everyday clothes, the opposite of en femme. Crossdressers use it for the days, jobs and settings where they app
• En femme
  En femme means dressed and presenting as a woman, usually said by men who crossdress or feminize. The phrase borrows French "in the manner of a woman" and covers clothes,
• Enthusiastic consent
  Enthusiastic consent means consent that is actively expressed and genuinely wanted, not just the absence of a no. The standard is a clear, willing yes, in words or unmist
• Ericksonian hypnosis
  Ericksonian hypnosis is the indirect, permissive style developed from the work of psychiatrist Milton H. Erickson. Instead of giving direct commands, it uses stories, met
• Erotic audio
  Erotic audio is adult content made to be heard rather than watched: spoken stories, role-play, guided fantasies and sound design meant to arouse. It ranges from narrated
• Erotic hypnosis
  Erotic hypnosis is the use of hypnotic techniques, relaxation, focus and suggestion, for arousal, fantasy and intimate play between consenting adults. It can be live with
• Erotic roleplay
  Erotic roleplay is acting out characters and scenarios, in person, in writing or in audio, to create arousal. It uses costume, dialogue and story, and works best with agr
• Eye fixation
  Eye fixation is a hypnotic induction in which you stare at a single point, such as a spot on the wall or a candle, until your eyes tire and you close them, entering relax

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• F4A
  F4A means female for any audience: a tag on audio scripts and recordings indicating a female voice performing for listeners of any gender. It is used in the erotic audio
• F4M
  F4M means "female for male": a tag showing that a piece of audio is performed by a woman and written for a male listener. It comes from personal ads and became standard i
• Femboy
  Femboy means a man or masculine-leaning person who presents in a feminine way: skirts, thigh-highs, makeup, a soft look or mannerisms. It describes style and aesthetic, n
• Femdom
  Femdom means female domination: a consensual dynamic in which a woman takes the dominant role and her partner submits. It covers everything from gentle, praise-heavy cont
• Feminization
  Feminization means making someone or something more feminine. In kink it describes play in which a person, usually a man, is dressed, named, trained or hypnotized into a
• Femme
  Femme describes feminine presentation, style or identity, borrowed from French for "woman". In queer communities it can be a proud identity; in kink and crossdressing it
• Figging
  Figging is a kink in which a peeled piece of ginger root is inserted anally (or sometimes vaginally) to create an intense, warming, stinging sensation. The burn comes fro
• Findom
  Findom means financial domination, a kink in which a submissive gets erotic satisfaction from giving money or gifts to a dominant partner, usually called a findomme or mo
• Flogger
  A flogger is a BDSM impact tool made of a handle and many soft strands, called falls, usually leather, suede or rubber. Depending on material and weight it feels thuddy (
• FLR
  FLR means female led relationship: a partnership, agreed by both adults, in which the woman makes the final decisions and sets the rules. It ranges from light, mostly sym
• Fluffy kink
  Fluffy kink is a gentle, playful and low-intensity style of kink, built around comfort, affection and fun, such as praise, cuddles, soft restraints and gentle teasing. It
• Foot fetish
  A foot fetish is a sexual attraction to feet, toes, soles or footwear. It is one of the most common fetishes, and while it can be purely visual, it often leads to foot wo
• Foot worship
  Foot worship means showing devotion to a partner's feet through kissing, massaging, licking, admiring or caring for them, usually as an act of submission. In femdom, knee
• Forced Feminization
  Forced feminization is a kink fantasy in which a dominant appears to make a submissive, usually a man, dress, act or be treated as feminine against his will. The force is
• Forced orgasm
  A forced orgasm, in kink, is a consensual scene where a partner is brought to climax by a dominant, usually while restrained, whether they would choose it at that moment
• Forniphilia
  Forniphilia is a kink in which a person is used as, or imagines being, living furniture such as a footstool, chair or table. It usually involves staying still in a fixed
• Fractionation
  Fractionation in hypnosis means repeatedly bringing someone partly out of trance and then guiding them back in. Each return usually goes deeper and faster than the one be
• FRIES
  FRIES is a consent framework: consent must be freely given, reversible, informed, enthusiastic and specific. Created by Planned Parenthood, it is widely used in sex educa
• Frisson
  Frisson is a brief, intense shiver or wave of goosebumps in response to something moving, usually music, speech or art. It is exciting and often arousing, while ASMR ting
• Funishment
  Funishment is a blend of "fun" and "punishment": a playful consequence the submissive actually enjoys, such as a light spanking, corner time or writing lines. It lets a d
• Funscript
  A funscript is a small data file that tells an interactive, connected sex toy how to move in sync with a video or audio track. It lists timestamps and positions, usually

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• Gaff
  A gaff is a tight, usually stretch-fabric undergarment that flattens the front by holding the genitals tucked back between the legs. Drag performers, crossdressers and tr
• Gender play
  Gender play is the practice of experimenting with gender roles, clothing, names and behaviour for pleasure or exploration. In kink it covers feminization, crossdressing,
• Genderbend
  Genderbend means reimagining a character, person or story with the opposite gender, common in fan art, cosplay and fiction. In kink it also covers feminization and gender
• GFE
  GFE stands for girlfriend experience: audio or ASMR content in which the performer plays a caring, affectionate partner speaking directly to the listener. It emphasises w
• GGG
  GGG stands for "good, giving and game," a standard for being a considerate sexual partner coined by sex columnist Dan Savage. It means being competent, generous with your
• Gimp (kink)
  In kink, a gimp is a submissive dressed in a full-body suit, usually latex or leather, with a mask or hood that covers the face. The role is silent, anonymous and servile
• Girl mode
  Girl mode is slang for the state of presenting, behaving or feeling feminine, in contrast with "boy mode". People use it for dressing up, changing mannerisms or mood, and
• Goddess
  In slang, goddess means a woman admired as stunning, powerful or untouchable. In femdom, Goddess is a title a submissive uses for a dominant woman they worship, stressing
• Good Boy
  Good boy means praise for good behavior, most familiar from how people talk to dogs. In slang it can be a teasing compliment. In relationships and femdom it is a dominant
• Good Girl
  Good girl means, in plain slang, praise for behaving well or doing something right. Between partners it is a flirty or intimate compliment, often with a dominant edge. In
• Gooncave
  A gooncave is internet slang for a private room or corner set up for long gooning sessions, with screens, comfortable seating and supplies close at hand. The term describ
• Gooner
  Gooner has two meanings. In football, a Gooner is a fan of Arsenal FC, from the club's nickname 'the Gunners'. In internet and kink slang, a gooner is someone who goons:
• Gooning
  Gooning means prolonged masturbation without finishing, kept going for a long time, often an hour or more, until arousal turns into a dazed, trance-like headspace called
• Guided Imagery
  Guided imagery is a relaxation technique in which a voice leads you to imagine detailed scenes, using sight, sound, touch and smell, in order to relax or change mood. It
• GWA
  GWA is short for gonewildaudio, a large adult audio community on Reddit where performers post erotic recordings and writers share scripts. It popularised the bracketed ta
• Gynarchy
  Gynarchy means rule or government by women. In politics and fiction it describes a society led by women. In kink and FLR communities, a gynarchy is a household or fantasy

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• Hands-free orgasm
  A hands-free orgasm means an orgasm reached without touching the genitals by hand. For men it most often comes through prostate stimulation, sometimes through breathing,
• Handshake induction
  A handshake induction is a rapid hypnosis technique, attributed to Milton Erickson, that interrupts the automatic routine of a handshake with an unexpected touch or movem
• Hard limit
  A hard limit is an activity, word or scenario someone will never do in kink, under any circumstances. It is not up for negotiation in the moment and is not something to '
• Headspace
  Headspace means the mental and emotional state a person occupies during kink play, such as subspace, domspace, pet headspace or service headspace. Attention, mood and sen
• Henpecked
  Henpecked is an old slang term for a husband who is nagged and dominated by his wife and does whatever she says. It is usually a mild insult, though female-led couples so
• Human ATM
  A human ATM is findom slang for a submissive who is treated by a financial dominant as a machine she can draw funds from on demand. The role is a fantasy of being used fo
• Humbler
  A humbler is a rigid device, usually metal, that clamps behind the testicles with a hinged bar or ring. Because pulling away would hurt, it forces the wearer to stay stil
• Humiliation kink
  Humiliation kink means being aroused by consensual embarrassment: blushing, being teased, exposed or made to admit things you'd normally hide. A partner deliberately make
• Humiliatrix
  A humiliatrix is a dominant woman who specialises in humiliation: mocking, belittling and degrading a consenting submissive as the heart of the scene. She focuses on word
• Hypnagogia
  Hypnagogia is the transitional state between being awake and falling asleep, marked by drifting thoughts, vivid images and a loosening sense of control. It overlaps with
• Hypno
  Hypno is short for hypnosis, hypnotic or hypnotized. In everyday slang it can describe anything mesmerising, but online it most often means erotic hypnosis content: audio
• Hypno file
  A hypno file is a recorded hypnosis session, usually an audio track, that you listen to on your own to be guided into trance and given suggestions. Files are tagged by th
• Hypno spiral
  A hypno spiral is a rotating spiral image used to induce or deepen trance by giving the eyes a single moving point to fix on. It works through visual fixation and mild se
• Hypnodomme
  A hypnodomme is a dominant woman who uses hypnosis as her main tool of control in consensual kink. She guides a willing listener into trance, then uses suggestions, trigg
• Hypnokink
  Hypnokink is the kink of finding hypnosis itself erotic: going into trance, being guided by a voice, receiving suggestions and triggers, or being the one who guides. It i
• Hypnosub
  A hypnosub is a person who enjoys being hypnotized in an erotic or kink context. They are the listener who goes into trance and accepts suggestions, triggers and conditio
• Hypnotee
  A hypnotee is the person being hypnotised, as opposed to the hypnotist who does the hypnotising. In online hypnosis communities the short forms are tee for the person und
• Hypnotherapy
  Hypnotherapy is the use of hypnosis by a trained practitioner to help with a defined health goal, such as pain, anxiety, sleep or habit change. It combines relaxation and
• Hypnotic amnesia
  Hypnotic amnesia is the forgetting of events, words or suggestions from a hypnosis session, either spontaneously after a deep trance or because a suggestion told you to f
• Hypnotic Bondage
  Hypnotic bondage means using hypnotic suggestion to create the feeling of being held in place, such as arms that will not lift or legs that feel bound, instead of physica
• Hypnotic Overload
  An overload induction gives the listener more information than they can consciously follow, such as layered voices, rapid speech or many simultaneous instructions, until
• Hypnotic suggestion
  A hypnotic suggestion is a statement or image, offered during trance, that invites a change in how you think, feel or act. Suggestions can be direct commands or indirect
• Hypnotic trigger
  A hypnosis trigger is a cue, usually a word, phrase, sound or touch, that is linked to a specific response during trance so that the cue later brings that response back.

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• Ice Lock
  An ice lock is a self-chastity method in which the key is frozen in a block of ice, so the wearer cannot unlock the device until the ice melts. Timing depends on the cont
• Ideomotor response
  An ideomotor response is a tiny, involuntary muscle movement triggered by a thought, image or expectation, without a conscious decision to move. It explains pendulums, do
• Impact play
  Impact play is a BDSM activity in which one person strikes another's body, usually the buttocks, with hands or implements such as paddles, floggers and canes. It ranges f
• Inaudible whispering
  Inaudible whispering is a whisper so quiet or so blurred that the words cannot be made out. In ASMR it works as a texture trigger: the listener hears breath, rhythm and c
• Induction
  A hypnotic induction is the opening part of a hypnosis session that moves you from ordinary awareness into trance. It uses focused attention, relaxation, imagery or a sud
• Inspection
  An inspection in BDSM is a ritual in which a dominant examines a submissive's body, clothing, tasks or chastity device to confirm rules are being followed. It can be form
• Isochronic tones
  Isochronic tones are a single tone that switches on and off at regular, evenly spaced intervals, creating a sharp, rhythmic pulse. Unlike binaural beats they do not need

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• Jock harness
  A jock harness is a strap-on harness built like a jockstrap: a waistband, a front ring or pouch for the dildo and two straps that run under the buttocks. It holds the toy
• JOI
  JOI means jerk off instruction: erotic content in which a person, usually a woman, speaks directly to the viewer or listener and tells him exactly how to masturbate, incl

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• KAP
  KAP stands for kink-aware professional: a therapist, doctor, nurse, lawyer or other professional who understands consensual kink and treats it as a normal part of sexual
• Keyholder
  A keyholder is the person who holds the key to someone else's chastity device and therefore decides when, or whether, they are unlocked and allowed to orgasm. Usually a p
• Kink vs fetish
  Kink vs fetish: a kink is any sexual interest outside the conventional, such as BDSM, role-play or power exchange, that adds to sex. A fetish is a strong sexual focus on
• Kink-shaming
  Kink-shaming is mocking, judging or looking down on someone for their consensual kinks. Kink communities treat it as unacceptable because it harms people, pushes interest
• Kinkster
  A kinkster is a person who practises or enjoys kink, meaning sexual or sensual activities outside the mainstream, such as BDSM, fetishes or roleplay. The word is a neutra
• Kinky
  Kinky means interested in unconventional sexual activities, or more broadly curly or twisted. In sexual use it ranges from mild adventurousness to BDSM and fetishes, and
• Kitten play
  Kitten play means a kind of pet play where an adult takes on the affectionate, curious and slightly independent personality of a cat, with a partner acting as their owner

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• Latex fetish
  A latex fetish is arousal from wearing, seeing or touching latex, the shiny, tight, rubbery material used in fetish clothing. The attraction comes from texture, squeak, c
• Leather kink
  Leather kink is an attraction to leather clothing and gear, from boots and gloves to harnesses and jackets. It also names a wider subculture with its own history, etiquet
• Lockbox
  A lockbox in chastity is a locked container that holds the key to the cage, so the wearer cannot open it on impulse. Some boxes use a combination or key; timer lockboxes
• Lockee
  Lockee is the chastity-world term for the person who wears the device and whose release is controlled by a keyholder. The word is used in both partnered and solo contexts
• Locktober
  Locktober means a chastity challenge held every October, in which participants wear a locked chastity device for the whole month, or as much of it as they can, without or
• Loving female authority
  Loving female authority (LFA) is a relationship style in which the woman leads through care, structure and consistent discipline, and the man follows because he trusts he

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• M4F
  M4F means "male for female": a tag showing that a piece of audio, script or post is created by a man for a female listener or reader. It is the mirror of F4M. In erotic a
• Male Chastity
  Male chastity is the practice of wearing a device that prevents erection, sexual contact or orgasm, usually controlled by a keyholder who holds the key. People do it for
• Mantra
  In hypnosis, a mantra is a short phrase the listener repeats, aloud or silently, to deepen trance and absorb a suggestion. The rhythm quiets critical thinking while the w
• Masochist
  A masochist is a person who gets pleasure, arousal or emotional release from receiving pain, humiliation or intense sensation. In kink this is consensual and negotiated.
• Mesmerism
  Mesmerism is the practice developed by the German physician Franz Anton Mesmer in the 1770s, based on his belief in an invisible fluid called animal magnetism. Though the
• Milking
  In kink, milking means draining semen from a man through prostate massage or sustained stimulation, often without a full orgasm. It is a femdom and chastity practice in w
• Mindfuck
  Mindfuck in kink means consensual psychological play: confusion, trickery, unexpected twists, contradiction, or emotional manipulation inside an agreed frame. It plays wi
• Misophonia
  Misophonia is a condition in which specific everyday sounds, such as chewing, lip smacking or pen clicking, provoke intense irritation, anger or anxiety. It is the opposi
• Mistress
  In kink, Mistress means an honorific title a submissive uses for the dominant woman they serve. Calling her Mistress acknowledges her authority and the power exchange bet
• Mommy Dom
  A mommy dom is a dominant, usually a woman, whose style is nurturing and caretaking: warm authority, praise, gentle rules and comfort alongside control. It describes a dy
• Mouth sounds
  Mouth sounds in ASMR are close-mic recordings of the mouth: lip smacks, tongue clicks, kisses, soft breath and "wet" sounds from saliva. Some listeners get strong tingles
• Munch
  A munch is a casual social gathering for kinky people, held in an ordinary public venue like a pub or cafe. Everyone stays fully clothed, no play happens, and the point i

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• Nipple Clamps
  Nipple clamps are small clips that pinch the nipples to create pressure, pain or a heightened sensation. They come in several types, from adjustable to weighted, and shou
• NLP
  NLP, or neuro-linguistic programming, is a set of communication and self-change techniques created in the 1970s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder, partly modelled on hy
• No Nut November
  No Nut November, or NNN, is an internet challenge in which participants avoid orgasm and ejaculation for the entire month of November. It started as a meme, and the last
• NoFap
  NoFap means abstaining from masturbation, and usually porn, for a set period or permanently. 'Fap' is internet slang for masturbating. The term grew from a 2011 Reddit co
• NSFW ASMR
  NSFW ASMR is ASMR content with sexual or adult themes: whispered erotica, intimate roleplay, close-mic sensual sounds. It uses ASMR techniques such as soft voice and bina

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• O-ring
  An O-ring is the circular ring at the front of a strap-on harness that holds the base of the dildo in place. The dildo's flared base sits against the ring, and its shaft
• Objectification (kink)
  In kink, objectification means consensually being treated as an object, such as furniture, a doll or a decoration, with no will or voice. The appeal is stillness, anonymi
• Orgasm control
  Orgasm control is a kink practice in which one partner decides when, how or whether the other orgasms. It covers permission rules, edging, ruining and denial, and can be
• Orgasm denial
  Orgasm denial means deliberately keeping someone aroused while preventing or delaying their orgasm, for minutes, days or weeks. It is usually controlled by a dominant par
• Ownership
  Ownership in BDSM is a symbolic, consensual arrangement in which a submissive gives a dominant authority over specified areas of life. It is expressed through collars, ru

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• P-spot
  The P-spot is a nickname for the prostate, a walnut-sized gland about two inches inside the rectum toward the belly. Many men find gentle pressure there intensely pleasur
• Pacing and Leading
  Pacing and leading is a hypnotic technique: you first describe what the listener is already experiencing (pacing), then gradually add suggestions about what should happen
• Pain Play
  Pain play is the consensual use of pain-inducing sensation, such as spanking, clamps or hot wax, for pleasure, catharsis or power exchange. It works through endorphins an
• Paraphilia
  Paraphilia is a clinical word for an intense and persistent sexual interest outside typical patterns, such as fetishes or role play. A paraphilia alone is not a disorder:
• Paypig
  Paypig means a submissive person, usually a man, who gets sexual or emotional satisfaction from sending money or gifts to a dominant, typically a woman. It comes from fin
• Pegger
  A pegger is the person who does the pegging, typically a woman wearing a strap-on and penetrating her partner anally. The receiving partner is the peggee. Good peggers pr
• Pegging
  Pegging means a sex act in which a woman penetrates a man anally using a strap-on dildo. The word was coined in 2001 and is now the standard term. People enjoy it for pro
• Permanent Chastity
  Permanent chastity means staying locked for an indefinite or lifelong period. In practice it is almost always a fantasy or a very long-term arrangement with regular unloc
• Personal attention ASMR
  Personal attention ASMR is a style in which the creator addresses the listener one on one, as if caring for them: adjusting your hair, checking your face, speaking softly
• Pet play
  Pet play means a kink role-play where one adult takes on the mindset and behaviour of an animal, such as a puppy, kitten or pony, while a partner acts as their owner, han
• Pillow princess
  A pillow princess is slang for a partner who prefers to receive pleasure rather than give it in bed, lying back like a princess on a pillow. It started in lesbian slang a
• Pinkpilled
  Pinkpilled is internet slang for someone who has been drawn toward feminization, femininity or sissy interests, as in "taking the pink pill". It is used jokingly or since
• Play Partner
  A play partner is someone you share kink scenes with, without being in a romantic relationship. The arrangement is built on trust, shared interests and clear agreements,
• Play party
  A play party is a private, usually vetted kink event where guests socialise and perform BDSM scenes on-site, often in a hired venue or someone's home. Strict consent rule
• PMV
  PMV stands for porn music video: a fan-made edit that cuts adult clips to the beat of a song, often with effects, flashing text and spirals. Sissy hypno PMVs add feminiza
• Pony play
  Pony play is a kink in which one person plays a pony, wearing a bit, bridle and harness, while the other acts as trainer or rider. It ranges from relaxed roleplay to form
• Post-hypnotic suggestion
  A post-hypnotic suggestion is a suggestion given during trance that is meant to take effect after the person wakes up. It may be tied to a cue, such as a word or a time,
• Post-orgasm torture
  Post-orgasm torture (POT) is a kink in which stimulation continues after an orgasm, when the genitals are extremely sensitive. The intensity ranges from ticklish to overw
• Power Bottom
  A power bottom is a receiving partner who is assertive, energetic and in charge of the pace. In gay slang it describes someone who drives penetration; in kink it describe
• Power exchange
  Power exchange means a consensual dynamic in which one partner gives some degree of control to the other, who accepts responsibility for using it well. It is the foundati
• Praise kink
  A praise kink means feeling strongly aroused, emotional or submissive when praised: words like 'good girl', 'good boy', 'you're doing so well' or 'I'm proud of you' produ
• Predicament Bondage
  Predicament bondage is a restraint scenario built so that the bound person faces a dilemma: any way they move trades one discomfort for another. The tension comes from th
• Pretty boy
  Pretty boy is a term for a man with soft, attractive, polished features, sometimes used as a mild insult for vanity. In sissy and femdom play it is a teasing, affectionat
• Pro domme
  A pro domme is a professional dominant woman who runs paid, negotiated BDSM sessions, in a studio or online. Most sessions involve no sex: the product is control, rolepla
• Progressive muscle relaxation
  Progressive muscle relaxation, or PMR, is a technique in which you tense each muscle group briefly and then release it, working through the body. In hypnosis it is used a
• Prostate massager
  A prostate massager is a toy shaped to press against the prostate through the rectal wall. It has a curved neck, a rounded tip and a flared base, and may be manual, vibra
• Prostate orgasm
  A prostate orgasm is a climax set off by stimulating the prostate rather than the penis. It is often described as deeper, longer and more full-body than a penile orgasm,
• Prostate play
  Prostate play is any sexual activity that stimulates the prostate gland, whether with fingers, a prostate massager, a plug or a strap-on in pegging. It is done for pleasu
• Protocol
  In BDSM, protocol means the agreed set of rules and rituals that shape how a submissive behaves toward a dominant: how to address them, when to kneel, how to ask permissi
• Punishment
  In BDSM, punishment is a consensual consequence for a broken rule or a deliberately provoked scene. It can be real, meant to be unpleasant, or playful, called funishment.
• Puppy play
  Puppy play means a form of pet play in which an adult, called a pup, takes on the energetic, loyal personality of a dog, guided by a partner called a handler. Pups may ba

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• Queening
  Queening means a woman sitting on her partner's face, usually for oral sex or for dominance, with her thighs around his head. It is the older, more regal name for facesit

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• RACK
  RACK stands for risk aware consensual kink. It treats consent and informed awareness of risk as the foundation of BDSM, rather than claiming any activity is perfectly saf
• Rapid induction
  A rapid induction is a hypnosis technique that starts trance within seconds, often by surprise, a sharp command or a sudden physical cue, instead of slowly relaxing the l
• Riding Crop
  A riding crop is a short, stiff, flexible shaft with a small leather loop or flat slapper at the tip, borrowed from horse riding and used in kink as an impact toy. It del
• Ritual
  A ritual in kink is a repeated, deliberate act that carries symbolic meaning within a dynamic, such as kneeling to greet a partner, a nightly check-in or a collaring cere
• Role reversal
  Role reversal means swapping the usual pattern of who leads, gives or penetrates in a relationship or in sex. In kink it often means the woman takes the dominant, giving
• Roleplay ASMR
  ASMR roleplay is a style of ASMR in which the creator plays a character, such as a doctor, barber or girlfriend, who addresses and cares for the listener. The scenario su
• Rope bunny
  A rope bunny is a person who enjoys being tied up with rope, in bondage or shibari. The term is affectionate slang for the receiving partner, while the person doing the t
• Rope top
  A rope top, or rigger, is the person who ties in rope bondage. They choose the ties, handle the rope and take responsibility for the safety of the person being tied, call
• Ruined orgasm
  A ruined orgasm means an orgasm where all stimulation is stopped at the exact moment of climax, so the body releases but the pleasure and satisfaction are mostly lost. It

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• Sadist
  In BDSM, a sadist is someone who enjoys giving pain, humiliation or intense sensation to a consenting partner. This differs sharply from the everyday meaning, which impli
• Safe call
  A safe call is a prearranged check-in with a trusted friend or contact when you meet a new play partner or date. You share the basic details beforehand and confirm you ar
• Safeword
  A safeword is a pre-agreed word or signal that immediately stops or pauses a kink scene, no questions asked. It is chosen to be something you would never say by accident,
• Scene
  A scene is a negotiated session of BDSM play, with an agreed start, activities and end. "The scene" with a definite article can also mean the wider kink community. Both u
• Script fill
  A script fill is a recording of a written audio script performed by a voice actor other than its author. The writer publishes a script for free, the performer records it
• Self-Bondage
  Self-bondage means restraining yourself, with rope, cuffs, tape or locks, while alone. The thrill is helplessness without a partner. It carries real risks because nobody
• Semen retention
  Semen retention means deliberately avoiding ejaculation for extended periods, through abstinence from sex and masturbation or by orgasming without ejaculating. Followers
• Sensation play
  Sensation play is a form of kink that uses varied physical feelings such as light touch, texture, temperature, scratching or gentle pain to heighten awareness and arousal
• Sensory Deprivation
  Sensory deprivation in kink means deliberately blocking one or more senses, usually sight and hearing, with blindfolds, earplugs, headphones or hoods. With less input, th
• Service sub
  A service sub is a submissive whose main joy comes from serving their dominant: cooking, cleaning, running errands, massages, fetching drinks, or any task that makes the
• Service Top
  A service top is someone who takes the active role in a scene mainly to give the bottom what they want. They bring skill and attention, and their own pleasure comes from
• Shibari
  Shibari means "to tie" in Japanese and is the Western name for decorative rope bondage. The more precise term is kinbaku, "tight binding". It uses jute or hemp rope in de
• Silicone breastplate
  A silicone breastplate is a one-piece wearable silicone chest piece that adds a realistic bust over the whole chest, usually worn by crossdressers and drag performers. Un
• Simp
  Simp is slang for someone who shows excessive attention, flattery or devotion to a person they're attracted to, usually without getting much back. 'Simping' means acting
• Sissification
  Sissification is the gradual process of turning someone into a sissy: a submissive who is feminized under a dominant's direction. It usually moves in stages, from private
• Sissy
  Sissy means three things depending on who says it. As schoolyard slang it is an insult for a boy seen as weak or girly. In older English it is a pet form of 'sister'. In
• Sissy Maid
  A sissy maid is a submissive, usually a man, who serves a dominant while dressed in a feminine maid uniform. The role combines feminization with domestic service: cleanin
• Sissy slut
  Sissy slut is an erotic label used in sissy kink for a feminised, sexually eager submissive. It pairs the sissy persona with an openly lustful, compliant attitude, and is
• Sissy trainer
  A sissy trainer is a dominant, usually a woman, who guides a sissy through feminization: tasks, routines, clothing, voice and mindset. She sets weekly assignments, checks
• Sissy training
  Sissy training is a consensual fantasy practice in which a person is guided through tasks, habits, dress, posture and mindset to embody a feminine, submissive persona. It
• Sissygasm
  Sissygasm is sissy-community slang for an orgasm reached through prostate stimulation instead of direct penile touch, often while locked in chastity or hands-free. It is
• Slave
  In BDSM, a slave is a person who has consensually agreed to give a partner extensive authority over parts of their life. The arrangement is chosen, negotiated and revocab
• Sleep trigger
  A sleep trigger is a word, phrase or cue that has been conditioned to send a listener straight back into hypnotic trance. Despite the name it does not cause real sleep; i
• Soft femdom
  Soft femdom is a gentle style of female domination where the woman leads through warmth, praise, teasing and light rules rather than harsh punishment. Control is real, bu
• Soft limit
  A soft limit is a kink activity someone is hesitant about but not completely against. They might try it under the right conditions: with a trusted partner, at low intensi
• Soft spoken
  Soft spoken in ASMR means speaking quietly and gently with a normal voiced tone, softer than conversation but not a whisper. It keeps pitch and warmth, so it is easier to
• Somnambulism
  In hypnosis, somnambulism is the deepest classical level of trance, in which a person can open their eyes, talk and act while remaining deeply absorbed, and may show amne
• Spanking Kink
  A spanking kink is an erotic interest in spanking, either giving or receiving. It is consensual between adults and ranges from playful smacks to structured scenes with im
• SPH
  SPH means small penis humiliation: a consensual kink in which a dominant, usually a woman, teases, mocks or compares the submissive's penis size for his arousal. Most men
• Spreader Bar
  A spreader bar is a rigid bar, usually metal or wood, with a cuff or clip at each end that holds the ankles, knees or wrists a fixed distance apart. It limits movement an
• Squick
  Squick is slang for a personal reaction of disgust or discomfort to something, such as a particular kink. The accepted etiquette is that your squick is yours: you can opt
• SSC
  SSC stands for safe, sane and consensual, a long-standing guiding principle for BDSM play. It asks that activities be as safe as reasonably possible, undertaken with a cl
• St Andrew's Cross
  A St Andrew's cross is an X-shaped frame used in BDSM dungeons to restrain a person standing, arms and legs spread, facing or with their back to the frame. It holds the b
• Stage Hypnosis
  Stage hypnosis is entertainment in which a hypnotist guides volunteers from an audience through suggestions such as forgetting their name or believing they hear music. Su
• Staircase deepener
  A staircase deepener is a hypnosis technique in which the listener imagines descending a staircase while counting down, with each step paired with a suggestion to go deep
• Strap-on
  A strap-on is a dildo worn on a harness at the hips, letting the wearer penetrate a partner hands-free. It is used by couples of every combination, and in femdom it is th
• Strap-on harness
  A strap-on harness is the belt or brief that holds a dildo at the wearer's hips so it can be used hands-free. Harnesses come in several designs, mostly distinguished by h
• Sub
  Sub is short for submissive: a person who enjoys giving up control to a dominant partner in sex, kink or a relationship dynamic. A sub finds pleasure, relief or arousal i
• Sub drop
  Sub drop means the physical and emotional low a submissive can feel after an intense BDSM scene or erotic session, once adrenaline and endorphins wear off. It shows up as
• Sub Frenzy
  Sub frenzy is the whirlwind that follows discovering submission. A new submissive feels starved and tries to say yes to every scene and every person at once. It is unders
• Subby
  Subby is casual slang for someone with submissive tendencies or a submissive mood, as in "feeling subby today". It is softer and more playful than "submissive", and does
• Subliminal
  Subliminal means below the threshold of conscious perception. A subliminal message is a word, image or sound presented too briefly or too quietly to be consciously notice
• Subspace
  Subspace means the altered, floaty state a submissive can slip into during an intense BDSM scene or erotic hypnosis session. Adrenaline, endorphins and deep focus combine
• Suggestibility
  Suggestibility means how readily a person accepts and responds to a suggestion, whether it comes from a hypnotist, a recording or their own imagination. In hypnosis it de
• Switch
  A switch, in kink slang, means a person who enjoys both dominant and submissive roles. Depending on the partner, mood or scene, a switch may lead one night and submit the

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• Tapping ASMR
  Tapping ASMR is a trigger made of rhythmic taps with fingernails, fingertips or objects on surfaces such as wood, glass or plastic. It needs no voice, travels well in hea
• Tease and denial
  Tease and denial, often written T&D, means a form of orgasm control in which one partner deliberately teases the other, keeping them aroused through touch, words, clothes
• Temperature play
  Temperature play is kink that uses hot and cold sensations on the skin, such as ice cubes, warm candle wax, chilled metal or heated oil. The sudden contrast heightens sen
• TF kink
  TF in kink stands for transformation fantasy: arousal from the idea of one's body, mind or gender being changed, often step by step. Common forms are gender TF, bimbo TF
• Theta waves
  Theta waves are brain oscillations of about 4 to 8 Hz seen in drowsiness, light sleep, meditation and deep relaxation. Hypnosis audio often cites them as a target state.
• Thigh harness
  A thigh harness is a strap-on rig that holds a dildo on the thigh, with a strap or two around the leg, instead of at the pelvis. It lets the wearer ride or grind on a par
• Tingles
  Tingles are the pleasant, prickling sensation that starts at the scalp and travels down the neck and spine in response to certain sounds or soft personal attention. They
• Tomgirl
  Tomgirl usually describes a girl or woman who mixes masculine and feminine style, liking tomboy habits while keeping feminine touches. In some online circles it is also u
• Top
  In BDSM, a top is the person who performs the action in a scene, such as tying, spanking or giving commands. A top is not necessarily a dominant: the word describes the r
• Topping from the bottom
  Topping from the bottom means a submissive or bottom steers the scene that the dominant or top is supposed to be leading, by giving instructions, correcting or setting th
• TPE
  TPE stands for total power exchange, a BDSM relationship in which one partner, the submissive, gives the dominant authority over nearly every area of life, around the clo
• Traffic light system
  The traffic light system is a consent tool in kink where colours replace a single safeword. Green means 'all good, keep going', yellow means 'slow down or check in', and
• Trance
  A trance is a state of narrowed, absorbed attention in which outside awareness fades and the mind becomes more responsive to suggestion. In hypnosis it is the relaxed, fo
• Trance junkie
  Trance junkie is hypnokink slang for someone who loves going into trance and seeks it out as often as possible, chasing the floaty, blank, pleasurable state. It is usuall
• Trance Logic
  Trance logic is the ability of a hypnotised person to hold two contradictory ideas at once without being troubled, such as seeing a hallucinated person and also the chair
• Tranceplay
  Tranceplay means using hypnosis as a form of erotic or intimate play between consenting adults, where one partner guides the other into trance for fun, closeness or fanta
• Transvestite
  Transvestite is an older term for a person who wears clothing associated with another gender, historically used in medical writing. Many find it dated or pathologising, a
• Tribute
  Tribute is a gift of money or something of value that a submissive offers a dominant as a mark of devotion. In findom the word replaces payment on purpose: the dominant i

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• Vanilla
  Vanilla, in a relationship or sex, means conventional and non-kinky: no BDSM, power exchange or fetishes. A vanilla person enjoys mainstream intimacy, and a vanilla relat
• Vetting
  Vetting in BDSM is the process of checking a potential play partner or dominant before meeting or playing: asking for references, talking to people who know them, and loo
• Violet Wand
  A violet wand is a hand-held, high-voltage, low-current electrical device that produces a violet glow and sparks when it touches skin through a glass electrode. In kink i

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• Waking Hypnosis
  Waking hypnosis means giving or receiving suggestions while fully alert, with eyes open and no formal induction or visible trance. Studies of hypnosis show suggestion can
• Wartenberg Wheel
  A Wartenberg wheel is a small hand-held wheel with sharp pins that rolls across the skin. It was designed by neurologist Robert Wartenberg to test nerve response, and kin
• Whipped
  Whipped is slang for a person, usually a man, who is so devoted to a partner that he does whatever she wants. It can be a teasing insult, a fond description of devotion o
• Whisper ASMR
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